I'm a scientist at heart and if there's one thing I love about working from an Innate Health perspective, it's the logic.
It gets me out of all sorts of scrapes.
See, it doesn't matter who I'm working with, or what they're coming to me with, the principles remain the same.
It's brilliant.
You see, I'm not trying to convince anyone of anything, or sell them on the idea of a particular strategy, or a ritual they have to keep up with, in order to see the benefits.
We're not trying to fix anything, or learn better ‘coping’ techniques, because, honestly, there's nothing to fix and nothing to cope with.
There's no belief-changing to do, either.
There's just laying out the logic of how we experience the world… and then letting the magic happen.
“I'm not really listening!” 😲
Several weeks into a block of Innate Health coaching, and we'd been looking at the logic that underpinned how a client was showing up in meetings – the principles behind how they experience meetings, and other people and the like.
Important meetings. Lots riding on them – literal millions at stake! They needed to be going better.
And this was what they saw, when they took their new understanding into the room with them.
Like the rest of us mere mortals, saddled with this very human psychology, they were mostly listening to the voice in their head—disagreeing, arguing, remembering, interrupting, reasoning, comparing, judging, analysing, suggesting—rather than to the situation in front of them.
It was quite the wake up call.
“Most of the conversations I have, I realised, I'm not really there!” 😲
And with that, the magic started happening: more presence, better connection, people expanding their own positions, situations better understood all round, less aggro, more inspired solutions…
All from this very simple, logical looking towards how things are, rather than taking our experience at face value.
Using logic, to let the magic out, all by itself.
✨
Giles
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A short video clip outlining two ways of listening 👂🏻