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The tyranny of expectation

Examining the source of my malcontent, during a period of illness 🤧

The tyranny of expectation
Photo by Kelly Sikkema / Unsplash

If we’re being real here (which is kind of the whole point of the Daily Reminders), then I’d like to say I have something inspiring to share with you today, here at the beginning of the week… but I don’t.

In the top right corner of my screen it says it’s 06:36, and this will be with you in a matter of minutes.

I'm low-level ill, so I got an early night last night, wiped out, imagining I might wake up having a bit more juice in me, for writing… but I don’t. I spent a good deal of it tossing and turning, coughing and sneezing.

Drugs have been taken. Strong coffee is being drunk.

💊☕️

You know how it is with bad colds: first thing and last thing are the worst, and there’s usually a small window of a few hours, late morning, where you feel almost normal.

That window grows steadily as the days go by, but not in a predictable fashion – it’s two steps forward, one and a half steps back.

Anyway, in yesterday’s golden few hours (during which I should have been penning this Daily Reminder), I parcelled out my scant energy on making eggs, mending a puncture (since one day I assume I’ll ride my bike again 🤷🏻‍♂️), and learning how use GarageBand on the iPad… ostensibly to help the child express her creativity without technical hurdle, but mostly just revisiting my youth, by reconstructing a Depeche Mode song, layer by layer.

(Behind the Wheel, since you ask – no verse, chorus or bridge structure to fumble, no key changes, four-to-the-floor and a relentless bass line, see? I’m 2/3 of the way through and it took ages.)

We live and learn – I’ll get a few emails scheduled in my window, today.


Before I go, let’s have a quick check of what I’ve written and be clear about the source of any suffering I might be experiencing.

Because if I remember correctly, life itself doesn’t come pre-packaged with meaning, and then of course there's this:

🔑
Key Message: ALL problems are created by the mind.

So let’s see:

  • “…I’d like to say” (expectation; not met)
  • “…imagining I might” (expectation; not met)
  • “…predictable fashion” (desire for; not being met)
  • “…assuming I’ll ride again” (expectation; currently no evidence supporting)
  • “…it took ages” (expectation; not met)

Being real, see?

Look out for these in your own day, today – these expectations are the source of any misery you might feel, not life; not your circumstances.

Anyway, it’s 06:59 and I need to hit send (expectation; determined to meet).

The coffee and the decongestants are beginning to kick in, and I wonder what the day ahead holds?

💟

Giles

Being real
Getting schooled by life. Again. To see why ‘feeling bad’ is such a gift. 💝

That other time I had one plan and life had another 🤷🏻‍♂️