Much is made in the world of coaching (and to a lesser extent, therapy) of the importance of a lack of hierarchy.
When the basic premise of the Innate Health understanding is that everybody is perfect and whole—but for their thinking—this kind of stacks up, doesn't it?
There's no ‘better’ or ‘worse’, ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ in that kind of conversation. Just an invitation to look towards that perfection, that wholeness, and tap into the profound transformative power it holds.
Just for a moment, reflect on how differently someone would show up in any situation, coming from these two different places:
a) I'm ok
b) I'm not ok
That's the promise of the 3 Principles.
But of course we're brought up in a world of teachers and teaching, of experts and knowledge acquisition, because when we're young we have no experience of the world, and we learn from those who have come before us.
So it's maybe natural to expect that when we enter into this transaction with a ‘helper’, in order to make some sort of change in our lives, part of that transaction is that they ‘know’ and we ‘don't know’.
Hierarchy.
Whereas the reality is a bit more akin to us being invited to see that we've always known, we've just forgotten.
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In yesterday's Daily Reminder, I shared the necessary ingredients for change and pointed out that it's a two way street: I have to satisfy those three criteria too, if any of that tapping-into-the-transformative-power-of-perfection-and-wholeness malarkey is going to occur.
And I shared a little story about how, when I spotted that I was about to fail one of them—being present—I did something about that:
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So fundamental, you could almost call them ‘Principles’.
As someone in the helping profession, the first two of those are the easiest to spot and to deal with, in myself.
But the third—staying open—is the one that it's easiest to trip over.
Because that notion of hierarchy (a manifestation of ego, naturally 🙄) is so ingrained in our human conditioning, it would be really easy to enter into a conversation believing that I ‘know’ and you ‘don't know’.
Which is bunkum.
So I do my level best to show up as a blank sheet to every conversation. I have no idea what's going to happen. I have no agenda of what I want, or need you to ‘understand’.
The less of the Giles Ego Construct 📦 there is in a conversation, the more likely some magic is going to happen.
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I'm fumbling my way through this human existence in the same way you are and there's every chance that you'll see something I haven't seen before!! (In fact, given the fact you're living in your ‘reality’, I'm kinda banking on that 😆)
This was never more apparent to me than when someone responded to one of my old favourite Daily Reminders: Incredible resilience.
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This one tells you EVERYTHING you need to know about the “R”-word.
They simply said,
“Loved that analogy on how we create worlds. Thanks Giles.”
…and my jaw dropped.
I wrote that piece. I've read it and shared it many times. It feels like it goes so deeply into the heart of the concept of resilience, that there's not really anything else to see there.
And yet I had never made the connection between this post all about Minecraft—my daughter's beloved world-building app—and the way in which we too create worlds, made out of Thought.
In spite of that being my job.
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So yeah. In case you were wondering. It's a level playing field here.
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Giles