D’you know what I think has made the biggest practical difference in my relationship?
It’s what we here at Croft Towers call the Double low mood alert!🚨
This is where you’ve both been smashed to pieces by the day and just want to collapse in a heap and do nothing.
But of course, annoyingly, for each of you, there’s this other person there too.
And a bunch of life admin to still get through.
So for one reason or another, innocently enough, you’re both heavily invested in your Thought Systems 📦 and the problems they’re creating, which look super-problematic and serious right now because you’re in such a low mood and frankly, it’s a recipe for disaster.
Here’s what to do
It’s really simple.
It could not be easier.
All you do is you make it known, that this is what is going on.
You say:
“Uh oh! Double low mood alert! 🚨 Emergency! Emergency!”
(or something equally over the top and dramatic)
You bring it out into the open, and make it known that the two of you are skating on incredibly thin ice right now, and could easily get into a nuclear meltdown over essentially nothing.
(That’s the way low moods work, remember?)
And what you may find when you do this, is that you both instantly relax, just a teeny bit.
It creates just enough space for things to start improving.
But if you don’t (or can’t) relax, at least then you both know to pussyfoot around each other until you can (or do).
Or… you’ll both know to just move to opposite ends of the house or something – basically, anything to avoid putting the rancid contents of your Thought System 📦 up against the rancid contents of their Thought System 📦 and spilling toxic bilge all over the place as a result.
☢️🧪🤮
You’re welcome.
You want the “Pro” version?
Of course you do. You are my kind of person! 🥰
If you really want to create a beautiful, handmade silken receptacle out of this pig’s ear of a low mood, here’s what you do next:
For example:
- Thank them for the slightest thing (even though you don’t feel grateful)
- Kiss them on the head for no reason whatsoever
- Tell them you love them, when they do something really minor
- Do something small, but helpful for them, expecting nothing in return.
It’s ok, you can still do all of this with a face like a slapped arse… but carry on, regardless.
Because if you do this, it will be nigh on impossible to get into a fight.
And you’ll feel good about yourself.
They’ll get the benefit, too, and the situation will change.
It works wonders, trust me.
And if, inexplicably, you’re both still miserable as sin, in spite of all that, as you’re going to bed, you have earned the right to high five each other that neither of you blew a gasket, despite both of you being on such a short fuse.
🙌🏻
Yay for you two!
Give it a go, let me know how you get on.
💝
Giles