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Outside-in relationships

Who is responsible for your happiness? Really? 🤔

Outside-in relationships
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Richard Carlson with your weekend wake up call:

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This is what I love about Richard – he takes the inside-out understanding and he really runs with it.

(Holding our feet to the flames in the process! 🦶🏼🔥😆)

You see, 100% of our experience comes to us via thought: the perceptual process going on inside of us that’s creating this light show that we call our own, individual reality. That’s 100% of everything that we feel.

Which means that leaves… hang on, while I grab my calculator…

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Oh, that’s right, 0% of our experience comes from anywhere else.

Including our partners, children, colleagues, that idiot that just cut us up in traffic…

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Key Message:
➤ 100% of our feelings come from (the Principle of) Thought
➤ 0% of our feelings come from our circumstances

To be clear – it’s completely fine that it doesn’t look this way (and it never will - it’s an illusion) but the whole thing’s an inner game.

What we’re experiencing isn’t the ‘outside’ world, it’s our mood, or level of consciousness, reflected outwards.

Which is actually pretty cool.

And a bit of a relief.

Because it means we don’t have to wrestle change out of someone else, in order to feel ok.

Feeling ok is an inside job.

💟

Giles

p.s. Before you set the dogs on me (and, incidentally, I used to believe that I was scared of dogs, until I realised I just had some fearful thinking about dogs) I need to flash up one of my small print disclaimers:

🚫 This does NOT mean you should ‘just put up with things’

Which is something you can read about in the Related post, linked below ⬇️

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Putting up with things
A disclaimer about the nature of acceptance 🚩

Because of course the mind will go there. Of course it will! Why wouldn't it?!