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# The thing vs. Your experience of the thing
- URL: https://www.gilespcroft.com/the-thing-vs-your-experience-of-the-thing/
- Published: 2026-05-21T06:00:55.000Z
- Updated: 2026-05-21T06:00:54.000Z
- Description: These are not the same thing. They're on two separate tracks 🛤️
- Author: Giles P Croft
- Tags: Psychology, #re-use, Video, #vm-promo, Quick insight, Principles, Neuroscience, MECHANICS, Grief

Short and sweet today: 1 minute of pointing to the principles that underpin our experience of life.

Because what shows up for us in life (‘the thing’) is *completely* out of our control!

That's a bitter pill to swallow sometimes, especially when it comes to something like the death of a loved one.

Relief from suffering comes from seeing that there are no rules about how we *should* feel—for *any* circumstance!—but that there *are* principles that govern our *experience* of ‘the thing’.

It might seem like a subtle difference, but it's the key to having a totally different experience of life; one free from stress & anxiety, and full of ease, connection and peace of mind.

If you can see, insightfully (maybe from watching videos like this one), that ‘the thing’ (i.e. the circumstances we face) are *not* connected to our *experience* of the thing (i.e. what we actually *get*, moment to moment), ***however much it looks that way***, then you’re free.

As I explain, in this very short (1 min) video:

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Clip lifted from my [Video Masterclass on Grief, Loss and Death](https://payhip.com/b/nGoKp?ref=gilespcroft.com)

🙌🏻

Giles

p.s. If you’re struggling with feelings that you can’t seem to prise apart from your circumstances, please, [reach out to me for support](https://www.gilespcroft.com/individuals/). It's what I do! 💝

p.p.s. The full Video Masterclass that this clip was taken from, on [Grief Loss & Death](https://payhip.com/b/nGoKp?ref=gilespcroft.com) is available in the store on the link below:

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