> ## Content Index > Fetch the complete content index at: https://www.gilespcroft.com/llms.txt > Use this file to discover other available public pages before exploring further. # Outside-in perils - URL: https://www.gilespcroft.com/outside-in-perils/ - Published: 2026-04-08T06:35:38.000Z - Updated: 2026-04-08T06:35:38.000Z - Description: It's one thing to get caught up in your thinking from time to time, but living from that place… 😬 - Author: Giles P Croft - Tags: Psychology, IMPLICATIONS, Life change, Mental Health, Thought realisation, Relationships, Neuroscience, Principles A little excerpt for you today from Ankush Jain's love letter to the coaching profession, [*Awakening the Coach Within*](https://amzn.to/4cuaZNv?ref=gilespcroft.com). His entire practice, like mine, is built on the foundations of the [3 Principles](https://3pgc.org/faq/?ref=gilespcroft.com) understanding, and he makes no apologies for repeatedly coming back to its most fundamental premise in the book: 🔑 ****Key Message**: ➤ ****100%** of our feelings come from (the Principle of) Thought ➤ ****0%** of our feelings come from our circumstances The reason he (and I) get away with repeating this so often is because us humans are hard wired to see it the other way round. Somewhere along the way, our internal software evolved to see our experience as happening *to* us (rather than *through* us) and hey presto, it still *really* looks that way! And since you [can't not see an illusion](https://www.gilespcroft.com/you-wont-believe-your-eyes/), we very innocently fall for it (I fall for it), every day: ![](https://storage.ghost.io/c/9b/f3/9bf3d316-7d32-494b-814f-a7d94d6358c3/content/images/2026/04/Outside-in-thinking_banner.jpg) Which is fine—it's *the* most human of traits—but when we're lost like that, for protracted periods, it *does* have consequences. 😬 And that's what Ankush puts his finger on so eloquently with this little paragraph I read today: > *“If we associate our feelings with objects, people and circumstances, we often try to control or chase things in our lives which have no bearing on our well-being or our happiness.”* 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 ouch it burns I did this for many, many years, again, completely innocently (it's *all* innocent – give yourself a break)! It led to me failing to fully commit to things like careers and relationships, because whenever the shine wore off, I would always place the responsibility for my disillusionment onto my circumstances, and of course then it was only natural that I would try to ‘fix them’ or just swap them out, by moving on to [something (or somebody) new](https://www.gilespcroft.com/what-a-song-lyric-taught-me-about-goals/). But in a way, I'm glad. Because *without* all that experience—without all that observing of how *not* to find contentment in life—I'm not sure the 3 Principles would have had the impact they did, when I stumbled across them, nigh on 7 years ago. 🤷🏻‍♂️ That ‘stumbling’ is a journey that I've been documenting recently in a series of Daily Reminders entitled ‘[17 Days](https://www.gilespcroft.com/tag/insight-series/)’ that you can catch up on, using the link below, if you're curious. The final part—which addresses what happens when we have a moment of ‘seeing through the veil’ of thought—is up next. 💟 Giles SIGN UP FOR THE DAILY REMINDERS newsletter [![CTA Image](https://storage.ghost.io/c/9b/f3/9bf3d316-7d32-494b-814f-a7d94d6358c3/content/images/2025/12/DR_Lockup-Black-1.png)](#/portal/signup) Want to start **every* day with helpful, insightful content like this? The Daily Reminder is a quick, lighthearted email that arrives in your inbox every morning, to help keep you grounded in reality, so that you get to **‘Think less, and live more.’* **“They feel like a moment of stillness in a world of madness.” \~* Neil, UK **“One of those small things with big impact. Honestly, just sign up!”* \~ Paula, UK [GET YOURS NOW ](#/portal/signup) ### Related [Insight series - The Daily RemindersThe story of what happened when I was introduced to the Innate Health understanding, and what it means for you 💝![](https://storage.ghost.io/c/9b/f3/9bf3d316-7d32-494b-814f-a7d94d6358c3/content/images/icon/DR_Lockup-Black-3-510.png)The Daily Reminders![](https://storage.ghost.io/c/9b/f3/9bf3d316-7d32-494b-814f-a7d94d6358c3/content/images/thumbnail/Topic-image---Insight-series-3.jpg)](https://www.gilespcroft.com/tag/insight-series/) Catch up on the full series to date.