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# Life itself has all the answers
- URL: https://www.gilespcroft.com/life-itself-has-all-the-answers/
- Published: 2023-01-12T07:00:00.000Z
- Updated: 2026-01-03T01:47:06.000Z
- Description: How do we make really big decisions… like the one to have children? 😯
- Author: Giles P Croft
- Tags: Parenting, Decision-making, Careers, Film & TV, Goals, Life change, Medicine, Productivity, Psychology, Relationships, Video, Wisdom, MECHANICS, #vm-promo

Off the back of a live session I ran on the topic of [Parenting](https://www.gilespcroft.com/tag/parenting/), I had a wonderful question sent in from someone about what they should expect in terms of career and time, and motivations, if they ever decided to start a family.  
  
I gave the answer that I so often have to: I have absolutely no idea!

😆  
  
All I know is the experience I've had (which is totally unreliable in terms of recall, and non-reproducible, because it's based on my own conditioning!) and some basics about how experience in general is put together.  
  
So the question provided the perfect opportunity to have a look at how we go about *making* such big decisions, and where the answers to our questions come from. 

(Hint: it's a lot closer than you think.)

[This clip](https://youtu.be/nh%5FoHurb9%5Fc?ref=gilespcroft.com) has got some very helpful MECHANICS of the mind in there, some amusing personal stories and even a profound quote from the hit TV series - *‘This Is Us.’* (I know, right?!)  
  
Enjoy!

Q: “I don't know whether to have kids! How do people balance their energy for work and other interests, once they're a parent?”

💟  
  
Giles

p.s if decision-making is on your mind then you might want to check out my Video Masterclass on the process: [https://gilespcroft.link/decisions](https://gilespcroft.link/decisions?ref=gilespcroft.com)