> ## Content Index > Fetch the complete content index at: https://www.gilespcroft.com/llms.txt > Use this file to discover other available public pages before exploring further. # Inner vs. outer feelings - URL: https://www.gilespcroft.com/inner-vs-outer-feelings/ - Published: 2024-07-24T07:00:00.000Z - Updated: 2026-04-03T14:06:17.000Z - Description: How removing insecure thought from your life opens you up to possibility ✨ - Author: Giles P Croft - Tags: Careers, Wisdom, Thought realisation, Stress, Sharing, Self-confidence, Real stories, Psychology, Principles, Medicine, MECHANICS, Life change, Money, Decision-making, Anxiety, #1:1 CTA For something like 12 years, every October I spoke at a national medical conference, about career change. The delivering of the talk itself I used to love, but I was always *really* nervous about having chats with people afterwards, when they came at me with their specific career-change questions. I just didn’t feel qualified to offer solutions, and any time I spent contemplating the post-talk milling around period, was deeply unpleasant. It was the only thing that might have stopped me saying Yes to participating in these conferences. 😮 **What do you make of that?! I was more nervous about having a conversation with* ***one** *person, than about standing up on stage in front of* ***100 people** *!!!* **Minds are bonkers, they really are* 🙄 Anyway, I’ll never forget, one year, after a particularly effective keynote, I had a huge crowd standing around afterwards, all wanting my advice. I’d over-run (as usual!) and been kicked out of the seminar room, so it wasn’t like an orderly queue, where I had one conversation at a time. It was just this massive free-for-all, with everyone asking their question and everyone else listening in on the pearls of wisdom this inspiring speaker was about to deliver. ## Put on the spot And then, in front of all these people, I got asked The Most Difficult Career Change Question Of All™ > ***“But what about financial security?”*** Oh shit. This was the biggie that I’d been fearing, all along. The threat of this question looming was an insecurity of mine that towered above all else. It was the question I thought I just didn’t have an answer for; the question that used to keep me up at night, because if anyone found out that I didn’t *have* a good response to it (because I didn’t)… well then, I’d be seen as a charlatan and all the inspiring words I’d said up on stage would be utterly worthless. I would never be invited back again, and that would be that. My speaking career would be over. *(For real. Minds truly are BONKERS* 🤨*)* And then, something amazing happened. There, in the moment, put on the spot without any preparation, not knowing *where* it came from, I heard myself delivering the only answer to that question of any substance; something I’d never even seen for *myself* as being true, until I spoke the words: > ***“Security doesn’t come from money. It’s a feeling that comes from inside of you. I suggest you work on your inner security instead.”*** 😳 👊🏻🎤💥 Everyone kind of went quiet after that, and I could feel a sort of electricity in the huddle of people, out there on that balcony. ## Realising principles in action Because unbeknownst to me (this happened *before* I came across the [3 Principles](https://3pgc.org/faq/?ref=gilespcroft.com)/Innate Health understanding that helped me put a name to it) I had just pointed to a fundamental, inarguable truth about how life works, and it connected all of us, in that moment. 💡 ****Feelings don’t come from situations or things, or money.** That’s simply not possible. They come from within, and it’s only ever that trickster-magician we call Thought, that makes out it could be any other way. It was quite a big moment for me on my own journey, because the fact things turned out like that—that I'd delivered a truly grounded answer—after my incessant worrying about the question, just went to prove the point. All the insecurity I’d been feeling in the run-up to the conference wasn’t coming from the conference, or the question – it just doesn’t work like that! It was coming from me 😮 And the answer that my intellect could *never* come up with—causing me great stress as it tried!—had been there all along. It came out when it needed to. ## It’s the same for you. The answers you don’t know—that you feel like you’ll *never* know—will be there when you really need them. You don’t have to ‘think them up’, because **they don’t come from your intellect.** So look, let’s not mess around here. Just take a moment, slow down and genuinely consider this coachy-type question: 🤔 ****What would change for you, if you really knew—beyond a shadow of doubt—that 100% of your felt experience comes from within and 0% of it comes from your circumstances?** What next steps do you think you would take in your life, operating from a place where you’re safe in that knowledge? Give yourself some space to ponder this question - it’s a worthy use of your time! And as always, if you’d like help with it, that’s what I do. 💟 Giles GET YOUR OWN CHANGES [![CTA Image](https://storage.ghost.io/c/9b/f3/9bf3d316-7d32-494b-814f-a7d94d6358c3/content/images/2026/01/GPC-mugshot-at-desk_800px.jpg)](https://www.gilespcroft.com/individuals) Know that it's time for significant life change? Had enough of reading and now ready to sort the problem out once and for all, with 1:1 support? I help you get the change you need, in a way that's just right for you. [Apply now ](https://www.gilespcroft.com/individuals)