> ## Content Index > Fetch the complete content index at: https://www.gilespcroft.com/llms.txt > Use this file to discover other available public pages before exploring further. # Helping others: Being present - URL: https://www.gilespcroft.com/helping-others-being-present/ - Published: 2026-04-26T06:00:43.000Z - Updated: 2026-05-09T08:29:29.000Z - Description: The Sharing Series - Part 3. What remains when egos are out of the way. đŸ«„ - Author: Giles P Croft - Tags: Sharing, Listening, Sharing Series, IMPLICATIONS, Relationships, Poetry, Presence, Sunday Spiritual 📑 This is ****Part 3** of a [mini-series](https://www.gilespcroft.com/tag/sharing-series/), that all kicked off when someone asked me, **“How can I help my partner when they’re suffering?”* I thought it might be helpful to lay out some of the basic principles I rely on when sharing the Innate Health understanding, myself. You can read ****Part 1**, here: [****Two moods in the room**](https://www.gilespcroft.com/two-moods/) And ****Part 2**, here: [****Step 1 - Showing up**](https://www.gilespcroft.com/helping-others-showing-up/) (This is a little bit of a niche topic, so if you're new, or what I’ve written above makes no sense to you, I recommend going back and reading [****The Journey**](https://www.gilespcroft.com/the-journey/), which is an excellent starting place, even if I do say so myself â˜ș) We’re looking at the process of sharing in 3 basic steps, and concluded [***Step 1: Showing up***](https://www.gilespcroft.com/helping-others-showing-up/) in rather an odd-seeming place where our *need* to share (which is just ego speaking) has pretty much disappeared. It's ironic that to arrive in the ‘sharing space’ we have to let go the need to share, but there we are. [Paradoxes](https://www.gilespcroft.com/paradox/) abound! Let's refresh our memory with the sharing diagram we've been looking at: ![](https://storage.ghost.io/c/9b/f3/9bf3d316-7d32-494b-814f-a7d94d6358c3/content/images/2026/04/Stick-Man---The-sharing-space-2.jpg) We may be relaxed, carefree and coming from a place of love, but then of course there’s the other person – where are they? Chances are, the whole reason you felt the need to share in the first place—to help!—was because they were all caught up in their thinking. But that's not the sharing space, and until they're there, nothing's happening. But *if* we are ‘showing up’ as we described, coming from a place of love and understanding, then it gives them the space—and the permission, almost—to fall out of their own thinking, and to ‘show up’, themselves. â˜đŸ» Until that happens, honestly, I’ve not found much use in continuing to ****Step 2**. It’s why [listening](https://www.gilespcroft.com/how-are-you-listening/) is so very, very important. Listening, without judgement or preconception or the need for anything to be different
 that's the key to helping them ‘successfully’ navigate ****Step 1** themselves. ([This video](https://www.gilespcroft.com/how-are-you-listening/) goes into more detail.) And of course there's another way to describe the ‘sharing space’, and that's **present**. ## Step 2: Being present Again, there are two people involved, and you need that connection, in presence, if anything's going to change. It's [Rumi's field](https://www.gilespcroft.com/one-to-one/), isn't it: > *“Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and right-doing, there is a field.* > *I’ll meet you there.* > *When the soul lies down in that grass,* > *The world is too full to talk about.* > *Ideas, language, even the phrase ‘each other’* > *Doesn’t make any sense.”* And while I'd love to give you a checklist of things to do next, and how to share, I fear that would somewhat miss the point, because as far as I can tell, it's just being together, with all the nonsense stripped away. That's the space where *all* the good stuff happens, whatever the context. That's actually what's doing the ‘helping’ – not you. ‘You’ (📩) aren't there! đŸ«„ ### The good news It all means that this is much easier than the mind makes out. The mind says things like: - đŸ“ŠđŸ—Łïž: *They need to change ‘in order for’ everything to be ok,* and - đŸ“ŠđŸ—Łïž: *I need to let them know that they're feeling their thinking, and under all that they have Innate Health*
 
which is all nonsense. Really, it's just two people properly slowing down together (with you taking the lead) and seeing what happens. What's *likely* to happen: Time slows. Connection is felt. Hearts open. Life flows. Something unexpected is said. Change occurs. And we've not even got to **Step 3** yet. 💝 Giles SIGN UP FOR THE DAILY REMINDERS newsletter [![CTA Image](https://storage.ghost.io/c/9b/f3/9bf3d316-7d32-494b-814f-a7d94d6358c3/content/images/2025/12/DR_Lockup-Black-1.png)](#/portal/signup) Want to start **every* day with helpful, insightful content like this? The Daily Reminder is a quick, lighthearted email that arrives in your inbox every morning, to help keep you grounded in reality, so that you get to **‘Think less, and live more.’* **“They feel like a moment of stillness in a world of madness.” \~* Neil, UK **“One of those small things with big impact. Honestly, just sign up!”* \~ Paula, UK [GET YOURS NOW ](#/portal/signup) ### Related [Sharing Series - The Daily RemindersSome basic principles to bear in mind when helping others with your understanding of the 3 Principles ✹![](https://static.ghost.org/v5.0.0/images/link-icon.svg)The Daily Reminders![](https://storage.ghost.io/c/9b/f3/9bf3d316-7d32-494b-814f-a7d94d6358c3/content/images/size/w1200/2026/04/Topic-image---Sharing-series.jpg)](https://www.gilespcroft.com/tag/sharing-series/) The rest of this mini-series on sharing the Innate Health understanding