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# Finding common ground in conflict
- URL: https://www.gilespcroft.com/finding-common-ground-in-conflict/
- Published: 2026-07-12T06:00:48.000Z
- Updated: 2026-08-07T06:57:25.000Z
- Description: Once you see what's going on in a disagreement, you can't unsee it 😯
- Author: Giles P Croft
- Tags: Relationships, Video, Thought realisation, Sydney Banks, Sunday Spiritual, Stress, Richard Carlson, #re-use, Psychology, Presence, Parenting, Listening, Insight, IMPLICATIONS, Anger

Let's get real for minute and be honest, in answering this question:

> ***How much of life is filled with conflict with other people?***

🤔

It's a lot, isn't it?

Family members, children, work colleagues, those other people, that idiot on social media… disagreement is everywhere! 

It's why communication and understanding are so high up on the **List of Very Important Things™** when it comes to relationships, of any flavour really.  
  
Once, when I was prepping for an event I ran, on the topic of *Difficult People,* I stumbled across a piece of writing that changed my view on conflict and disagreement entirely.

(It dropped such a clanging insight in my head as I was reading it, that I can still recall the feeling! I remember thinking, *“Now why hadn't I seen this before?!”* and then just sitting quietly for a bit, to let the insight percolate.)

It's from Richard Carlson's book, [*What About the Big Stuff?*](https://amzn.to/4ftLqh6?ref=gilespcroft.com) and it's *so* powerful and *so* on the money that I want to share it with you. 

I've left this until a Sunday, because it goes deeper than you'd imagine and I want you to really take the time to slow down and listen properly to it, with an open heart and an open mind.

💗

I can pretty much guarantee it will catch you off guard and present a **totally** different perspective on conflict.  
  
One that gives you a clear path to ending it, *whatever* the relationship.  
  
Wouldn't that be nice?

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💟

Giles

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