> ## Content Index > Fetch the complete content index at: https://www.gilespcroft.com/llms.txt > Use this file to discover other available public pages before exploring further. # Double low mood alert! - URL: https://www.gilespcroft.com/double-low-mood-alert/ - Published: 2025-11-01T07:00:00.000Z - Updated: 2026-08-22T16:04:07.000Z - Description: These two counter-intuitive things to do when you're both in a state, will change *everything* ❤️‍🩹 - Author: Giles P Croft - Tags: Relationships, Real stories, Stress, Moods, IMPLICATIONS D’you know what I think has made the biggest practical difference in my relationship? It’s what we here at Croft Towers call the **Double low mood alert!🚨** This is where you’ve *both* been smashed to pieces by the day and just want to collapse in a heap and do nothing. But of course, annoyingly, for each of you, there’s this other person there too. *And* a bunch of life admin to still get through. So for one reason or another, innocently enough, you’re both heavily invested in your Thought Systems 📦 and the problems they’re creating, which look *super*\-problematic and serious right now because you’re in such a low mood and frankly, it’s a recipe for disaster. ![](https://storage.ghost.io/c/9b/f3/9bf3d316-7d32-494b-814f-a7d94d6358c3/content/images/2026/04/Thought-system-vs-Thought-system---Total-disaster.jpg) Actual footage from the [Relationships Video Masterclass](https://payhip.com/b/UM2S4?ref=gilespcroft.com) ## Here’s what to do It’s really simple. It could not be easier. All you do is you make it known, that this is what is going on. You say: > *“Uh oh! Double low mood alert!* 🚨 *Emergency! Emergency!”* (or something equally over the top and dramatic) You bring it out into the open, and make it known that the two of you are skating on *incredibly* thin ice right now, and could easily get into a nuclear meltdown over essentially nothing. (That’s the way low moods work, remember?) And what you may find when you do this, is that you both instantly relax, just a teeny bit. It creates just enough space for things to start improving. But if you don’t (or can’t) relax, at least then you both know to pussyfoot around each other until you can (or do). *Or…* you’ll both know to just move to opposite ends of the house or something – basically, *anything* to avoid putting the rancid contents of *your* Thought System 📦 up against the rancid contents of *their* Thought System 📦 and spilling toxic bilge all over the place as a result. ☢️🧪🫟🤮 You’re welcome. ## You want the “Pro” version? Of course you do. You are *my* kind of person! 🥰 If you *really* want to create a beautiful, handmade silken receptacle out of this pig’s ear of a low mood, here’s what you do next: 💞 You consciously go out of your way to be super-kind and loving towards the other person, even though you feel like you don’t have a single compassionate cell left in your body. For example: - Thank them for the slightest thing (even though you don’t *feel* grateful) - Kiss them on the head for no reason whatsoever - Tell them you love them, when they do something really minor - Do something small, but helpful for them, expecting nothing in return. It’s ok, you can still do all of this with a face like a slapped arse… but carry on, regardless. Because if you do this, it will be nigh on *impossible* to get into a fight. *And* you’ll feel good about yourself. They’ll get the benefit, too, and the situation *will* change. It works wonders, trust me. And if, inexplicably, you’re both *still* miserable as sin, in spite of all that, as you’re going to bed, you have earned the right to high five each other that neither of you blew a gasket, despite both of you being on such a short fuse. 🙌🏻 Yay for you two! Give it a go, let me know how you get on. 💝 Giles SIGN UP FOR THE DAILY REMINDERS newsletter [![CTA Image](https://storage.ghost.io/c/9b/f3/9bf3d316-7d32-494b-814f-a7d94d6358c3/content/images/2025/12/DR_Lockup-Black-1.png)](#/portal/signup) Want to start **your* days with helpful, insightful content like this? The Daily Reminder is a quick, lighthearted email that arrives in your inbox, to help keep you grounded in reality, so that you get to **‘Think less, and live more.’* **“They feel like a moment of stillness in a world of madness.” \~* Neil, UK **“One of those small things with big impact. Honestly, just sign up!”* \~ Paula, UK [GET YOURS NOW ](#/portal/signup) ### Related [Finding common ground in conflictOnce you see what’s going on in a disagreement, you can’t unsee it 😯![](https://storage.ghost.io/c/9b/f3/9bf3d316-7d32-494b-814f-a7d94d6358c3/content/images/icon/DR_Lockup-Black-3-9564995f-c8c3-489f-a4f4-90752dbc69e5.png)The Daily RemindersGiles P Croft![](https://storage.ghost.io/c/9b/f3/9bf3d316-7d32-494b-814f-a7d94d6358c3/content/images/thumbnail/tumisu-stop-4121138-1-d7a55f85-67bc-472e-bb8e-7574872f2974.jpg)](https://www.gilespcroft.com/finding-common-ground-in-conflict/)