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# Do you feel unloved?
- URL: https://www.gilespcroft.com/do-you-feel-unloved/
- Published: 2026-06-17T06:00:45.000Z
- Updated: 2026-06-17T06:00:45.000Z
- Description: Why we may feel lonely and unloved, and what to do about it 🌷
- Author: Giles P Croft
- Tags: Writing, #re-use, Thought realisation, Relationships, Psychology, Presence, Mental Health, Meditation, MECHANICS, Identity, Attention, Acceptance

Do you feel unloved?

If so, first, please have a virtual hug from me.

💝

(I hope these Daily Reminders of your true nature help!)

And then if you have 10 minutes, and want to get a fresh perspective on your situation, please go and read this: *The Anatomy of Feeling Unloved.*

[The Anatomy Of Feeling UnlovedBuddhist writer Harvey Aronson shone a bright light on a hidden truth: ’Most of us habitually think this way: “Jayne lost the book I lent her. She is irresponsible and awful.” It is a lot harder to acknowledge this feeling: “I fear I don’t matter in her eyes. I fear she doesn’t care for me. I fe![](https://storage.ghost.io/c/9b/f3/9bf3d316-7d32-494b-814f-a7d94d6358c3/content/images/icon/logo-300x300-8d5f3c3d-788d-4175-8efc-cbb3567c6275.png)Media LensEditor![](https://storage.ghost.io/c/9b/f3/9bf3d316-7d32-494b-814f-a7d94d6358c3/content/images/thumbnail/ml-flower-7895d94a-57a1-407c-b0aa-15170f1e680a.jpg)](https://www.medialens.org/2024/the-anatomy-of-feeling-unloved/?ref=gilespcroft.com)

It’s so eloquently written and hits the nail so squarely on the head, that I can’t resist sharing it with you.

In the article, the author, [David Edwards](https://www.medialens.org/who-are-we/?ref=gilespcroft.com), a journalist, practicing Buddhist and author of [*A Short Book About Ego*](https://www.medialens.org/bookshop/a-short-book-about-ego/?ref=gilespcroft.com), points you to two things I’m always pointing you to:

1. The notion of self is a helpful, practical illusion, but an illusion nonetheless
2. Put very simply, our experience of life is either to be at one with it/being carried along with it vs. being distracted by our thinking *about* it.

As he concludes:

> *The feeling of being unloved, then, is not a reflection of Truth, Reality, of ‘the cold light of day’. It is a symptom of the disease of overthinking.*

> *We have misunderstood the problem all along. Others may or may not have loved us, may or may not have let us down. At the deepest level, the reason we feel unloved is that an excess of thinking has blocked our *own* source of love and bliss. Our heads have let our hearts down.*

I send you this article, not to tell you you're wrong and you shouldn't feel lonely or unloved, but to gently point you in the direction of where/how to find love.

It's so much easier than you *think!*

💟

Giles

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These are difficult concepts to ‘get your head round’. What I do with my 1:1 clients is to help them step away from intellectualising this stuff (which isn’t all that helpful) and actually **embody* it and start **living it* (which is).  
  
If you know it's time now to start taking steps in that direction, then have a look at this page to see if you'd like to do that with me as your co-pilot.

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