> ## Content Index > Fetch the complete content index at: https://www.gilespcroft.com/llms.txt > Use this file to discover other available public pages before exploring further. # Compassion for those who dislike you - URL: https://www.gilespcroft.com/compassion-for-those-who-dislike-you/ - Published: 2026-06-29T06:00:05.000Z - Updated: 2026-09-17T19:59:24.000Z - Description: Stop making it about you – it isn’t! ⚠️ - Author: Giles P Croft - Tags: Relationships, Thought realisation, Sydney Banks, Self-confidence, Psychology, Neuroscience, MECHANICS, Impostor syndrome, Identity It’s the beginning of the week and in the coming days there’s near certainty you’ll have an interaction with somebody who doesn’t really like you. Bummer, eh? If only we could get everybody to properly understand us, surely they’d have no reason to dislike us? I mean, what’s wrong with these people? Why do they have to be so judgemental?! 🫢 Oh, wait, was that *me* being judgemental? Oops. --- I was working with a client recently, who was worried about what other people were going to think of them, at an upcoming event. So we got into it, and quickly established two basic facts: ## Fact #1 ⚠️ Whatever other people think about you, **they’re* the ones having that experience, not you. This cracks me up, because it’s so damned obvious, and yet we forget it—and consequently get very het up about it—all the time! It’s beyond the laws of space, time and matter that you could actually be party to the experience someone else is having. They get theirs, you get yours. - So if they’re angry with you – that anger is theirs. They’re the ones feeling it - If they love you – that love is theirs. They’re the ones feeling it. As one of my mentors says, > *“What other people think, is between them and them.”* Good to know! ## Fact #2 ⚠️ We don’t experience others, we experience our own Thought System—ourselves!—reflected in them. This is the corollary of **Fact #1**, really, and a direct implication of the [inside-out](https://www.gilespcroft.com/inside-out/) nature of our experience (albeit a bit of a slippery and counter-intuitive one). But if you stick Joe Bloggs in a room with 10 people, there’ll be 11 different versions of Joe in that room: one ‘reality’ being created from the conditioned mind of each of those present, and of course Joe’s own creation of himself. (Which [isn’t strictly his](https://www.gilespcroft.com/recordings/), either.) All of them different. None of them true (not even Joe’s)! It’s enough to make your head spin. 😵‍💫 It might help to look at this diagram I stumbled across on the internet once: ![](https://storage.ghost.io/c/9b/f3/9bf3d316-7d32-494b-814f-a7d94d6358c3/content/images/2026/06/IMG_4504-1.png) Sorry, I have zero idea of attribution for this one, but a huge thank you to whoever took the time to make it. Makes you think, doesn’t it? 🤔 ## Those who don’t like you So where does this leave us with those people you’ll bump into this week, who don’t like you? Because **Fact #1** and **Fact #2** demonstrate that *whatever* they feel, it’s not really about you, it’s about them. And if they’re the ones stuck with bad thought/feelings about you, wouldn’t that be cause for compassion? I mean, god knows what’s accumulated in their Thought System 📦 as it’s been hoovering up experiences throughout their life, but whatever it is, it’s causing all sorts of consternation for them, when you show up, just being yourself. I’d say that qualified for a bit of [Syd's](https://sydneybanks.com/about/?ref=gilespcroft.com) oft-repeated ‘love and understanding’, wouldn’t you? After all, casting your mind back to the opening of this piece, it’s easy to see that judging others is just something that *all* minds do – yours, mine, everybody’s. We all suffer when we take that thinking seriously… let’s bear that in mind! ❤️‍🩹 Giles p.s. I *had* to look, and the etymology of the word ‘compassion’ is Latin: ***com*** (together) + ***pati*** (suffer). We’re all in this together! SIGN UP FOR THE DAILY REMINDERS newsletter [![CTA Image](https://storage.ghost.io/c/9b/f3/9bf3d316-7d32-494b-814f-a7d94d6358c3/content/images/2025/12/DR_Lockup-Black-1.png)](#/portal/signup) Want to start **your* days with helpful, insightful content like this? The Daily Reminder is a quick, lighthearted email that arrives in your inbox, to help keep you grounded in reality, so that you get to **‘Think less, and live more.’* **“They feel like a moment of stillness in a world of madness.” \~* Neil, UK **“One of those small things with big impact. 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